Sex is a very delicate topic to talk about, yet very important in any age. I heard a lot about it at school. Like many I would listen to what my peers or older kids said and believed that anything they said is true. However, not having proper education can lead to a list of problems.
As mentioned, it is extremely important to teach their children about sex. A number of years ago, parents could talk about the birds and the bees starting at about age 10. Now with the media and other resources, it is a need to start at much earlier age. In fact, I believe that this conversation is crucial even before either a boy or a girl begin their puberty season. When they are aware, they won’t get scared when the changes in their body come along. I’m grateful that although I didn’t have many conversations with my parents about sex, my mom did a great job talking about the girl’s body and what did does. I felt ready and was not afraid of cycles and other changes that would be happening to me.
Another benefit is building trust with your child. It would be terrifying to find out that my child used the internet to answer any of their questions. If parents commit to talking to their children from a young age, the kids will not feel awkward to ask their parents questions. As they’re talking, the reaction to different questions has to be appropriate. Of course, the tone is no less important, so nobody feels uncomfortable.
Although the talk may not be very pleasant for the parent, it’s still necessary. What’s crucial to understand is that youngsters don’t need to know everything all at once. There are stages for what’s good for them to know. It’s important for them to find out that sex works with individuals in both physical and psychological ways. Moreover, most of the chemical processes during sex is preformed in the brain. Sexual intimacy causes it to release much more neurochemicals such as dopamine. This neurotransmitter helps us enjoy what we are doing: not only sex, but other activities such as eating something good, listening to music, or anything else that an individual enjoys doing. Endorphins are released during sex as well. Unlike dopamine, endorphins help people relax during an activity. In addition, something that mostly women release is oxytocin. That helps partners create a feeling of attachment. When a woman given birth, she has a burst of those chemicals and that causes her to be extra protective over her newborn baby.
Besides the psychological benefits, there are physical pros to having sex. For example, doing it causes people to have a stronger heart and immune system, lowers blood pressure, improves sleep, boosts memory, etc. Again, it is not something that any boy or girl should know right away, but the points is there is so much to know about this topic. A good start is introducing them to their own bodies. It may seem obvious, but they don’t pay much attention to it when they are young. As they get older, explain the importance of keeping the “private parts private.” After that, adults can slowly start explaining the forming of a baby with sperms and eggs.
Each child will definitely react differently to this information. It is the parent’s responsibility to find out the right timing with each of their children. Moms and dads should also mention pornography at the right age to prevent addictions and other negative consequences. No matter the age, the rule stays the same – do not procrastinate on teaching your child about intimacy.
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